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Links and recommendations

Here I share with you an ever-growing list of links

to people, approaches, videos, and books that I reccommend.

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Trauma and trauma healing

Trauma and trauma healing

Personal website of Dami Charf

(unfortunately only in German so far)

Dami Charf's website on trauma healing

Compassionate Inquiry

Somatic Experiencing International

Book on trauma and trauma healing

Van der Kolk, Bessel A. 2015. The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind and Body in the Healing of Trauma. New York, NY: Penguin Books.

Levine, Peter A. 2010. In an Unspoken Voice: How the Body Releases Trauma and Restores Goodness. Berkeley: North Atlantic Books.

Badenoch, Bonnie. 2018. The Heart of Trauma: Healing the Embodied Brain in the Context of Relationships. First edition. New York: W.W. Norton & Company.

Charf, Dami. 2018. Auch alte Wunden können heilen: wie Verletzungen aus der Kindheit unser Leben bestimmen und wie wir uns davon lösen können. München: Kösel.

Porges, Stephen W. 2011. The Polyvagal Theory: Neurophysiological Foundations of Emotions, Attachment, Communication, and Self-Regulation. 1st ed. New York: W. W. Norton.

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(Lucid) Dreaming

(Lucid) Dreaming 

Website of Clare Johnson, who takes lucid dreaming one step deeper than many others

Website of Andrew Holecek, one of THE experts on Buddhist dream practice and host of the "Nightclub"

Website of Robert Waggoner, who publishes a newsletter on the matter

Books on (lucid) dreaming

Castaneda, Carlos. 1994. The Art of Dreaming. New York, NY: Harper Perennial.

Holecek, Andrew. 2020. Dreams of Light: The Profound Daytime Practice of Lucid Dreaming. Boulder, Colorado: Sounds True.

Johnson, Clare R. 2017. Llewellyn’s Complete Book of Lucid Dreaming: A Comprehensive Guide to Promote Creativity, Overcome Sleep Disturbances & Enhance Health and Wellness. Woodbury: Llewellyn Worldwide Ltd.

Waggoner, Robert. 2009. Lucid Dreaming: Gateway to the Inner Self. Needham, Mass: Moment Point Press.

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Sexuality and relationships

Sexuality and relationships

TED-Talk by Esther Perel on desire

TEDx-Talk by Diana Richardson on Slow Sex

Website of Ilan Stephani who does lots of interesting stuff around sexuality and aliveness, including free shaking events

Hearts in Harmony – I really liked this audiobook

by Gay and Kathy Hendricks who've been in the field of relationship improvement for ages

The website of the Hendricks couple with many free resources

Books on sexuality and relationships

Schnarch, David Morris. 2009. Intimacy & Desire: Awaken the Passion in Your Relationship. 1st ed. New York, N.Y: Beaufort Books.

Barker, Meg-John. 2018. Rewriting the Rules: An Anti Self-Help Guide to Love, Sex and Relationships. 2nd edition. Abingdon, Oxon ; New York, NY: Routledge, Taylor & Francis Group. 

Levine, Amir. 2021. Attached: Are You Anxious, Avoidant Or Secure? How The Science Of Adult Attachment Can Help You Find - And Keep - Love. London, UK: Bluebird.

Nagoski, Emily. 2021. Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life. Simon&Schuster trade paperback edition, revised and updated. New York: Simon & Schuster Paperbacks.

Nagoski, Emily. 2019. The Come as You Are Workbook: A Practical Guide to the Science of Sex. 

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